Reblog: Driving with Hearing Loss

Imagine driving home one evening after dark. It’s been a long day, you’re exhausted, and all you want to do is grab a bite and shed the worries of the day on your sofa in front of the TV. Suddenly, those dreaded red and blue lights appear in your rear-view mirror and, having no idea whether you’ve done anything wrong, you pull over onto the shoulder and kill the motor. A cop approaches your car, knocks on your window, shines a supernova-bright flashlight into your face and proceeds to question you. You’re temporarily blinded, nervous and frustrated, wondering why this is happening. You’re also deaf and have no idea what the cop is saying. You can’t lip-read if you can’t see his face, and you can’t hear his voice—there’s no way to understand what’s going on. Confusion ensues. Next thing you know, you’re being detained for suspicion of driving while under the influence simply because you’re driving deaf.

Or, imagine yourself behind the wheel, minding your own business, completely unaware of the ambulance or firetruck on your tail, siren blaring. Once you see the strobes, you’re immediately overcome with panic and humiliation as you quickly maneuver out of the way, allowing the emergency vehicle to speed past, hoping your deafness has not caused harm to anyone.

This is what it’s like to drive while deaf.

I originally began this blog five years ago in the hopes I could meet other people like myself—folks who are deaf or hard-of-hearing (HoH) and socially isolated, folks who don’t know sign language and have no friends or support systems to help them navigate their silent world. And while I failed in my attempt to meet deaf people—and subsequently changed directions with my blog—I’m still deaf and I still wrestle with this disability every moment of my life. I have a series of six essays here on my blog detailing my story if anyone is interested in learning what deafness is really like, and while writing those essays I attempted to portray honestly what it’s like to be deaf in a hearing world. It isn’t easy, and while I don’t want any sympathy, I hope for understanding among hearing folks, as well as acceptance and compassion. After all, we’re all in this together.

A couple of days ago, a kind gentleman named Mark Vanderbilt reached out to me through my blog and shared an article regarding driving while deaf. He granted me permission to reblog it here, so I’m providing this link to this most informative piece:

Driving with Hearing Loss

As for myself, I’ve been unable to drive for the past seven-and-a-half years due to peripheral neuropathy in my lower legs and feet, so I no longer own my old Ford Ranger 4×4 and no longer worry about this issue, but millions of other deaf and HoH people are still affected. Since then, I’ve become cognizant of advances in technology and common-sense approaches to assist and improve deaf drivers’ awareness in traffic situations that can vastly improve safety and protect the rights of deaf people behind the wheel. Many of these are mentioned in Mark’s article and may benefit anyone within the entire spectrum of deafness.

So, if you or anyone you know is deaf or hard-of-hearing, this article may shed some light on ways to help deaf people drive more safely. There’s help out there, and I appreciate Mark’s kindness in contacting me and sharing this valuable information.

“Fade” published at Manuela Timofte’s blog In A Love World

Hi, friends. My poem “Fade” is now available at Manuela Timofte’s blog In A Love World. I’m grateful to Manuela for continuing to share my poetry with her readers.

“Fade”
© 2021 by Michael L. Utley

Dusk has fallen as
Stars scream heavenward and doves
Murmur mournfully
Evening-song has come and I
Cannot hear day’s parting cry

Night blooms above as
Insects whisper mysteries
And wolves share solemn
Oaths on phantom breeze and I
Cannot hear dark’s somber sigh…

You can read the rest of my poem here:

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“A Few Haiku & Senryu (62)”

© 2024 by Michael L. Utley

(#367)

river stone cairn
serenity in chaos
as life flows past

…..

(#368)

deathbed
her soul cleansed by
early morning rain

…..

(#369)

in my stillness
I become the mountain
winter squall

…..

(#370)

oneness with nothingness
this world can no longer
touch me

…..

(#371)

my silent world
sound dies
and I die with it

…..

(#372)

my essence diffused
I’m no longer here nor there
a crow’s cry

“Fade” published at Gobblers By Masticadores

Hey, folks. I’d like to announce my poem “Fade” has been published at Gobblers By Masticadores. A big thank you to Juan Re Crivello and Manuela Timofte and their staff for this opportunity to share my poetry with their readers—it’s always an honor and I’m truly grateful.

“Fade”
(c) 2021 by Michael L. Utley

“Dusk has fallen as
Stars scream heavenward and doves
Murmur mournfully
Evening-song has come and I
Cannot hear day’s parting cry

Night blooms above as
Insects whisper mysteries
And wolves share solemn
Oaths on phantom breeze and I
Cannot hear dark’s somber sigh
…”

You can read the rest of my poem by clicking this link. Also, don’t forget to follow and subscribe to Gobblers By Masticadores, where you’ll find some wonderful writing and plenty of food for thought.

“The Deaf Guy” published at India & Masticadores

Hey, folks. I’d like to announce my essay “The Deaf Guy” has been published at the new literary website India & Masticadores. Many thanks to Editor Abhilash Fraizer and his team for the opportunity to share my writing at India & Masticadores. I truly appreciate it. Thank you, Abhilash!

You can read my essay by clicking this this link:

“The Deaf Guy”

Also, please consider following and subscribing to India & Masticadores, where you’ll find unique voices and captivating topics to spur your imagination.

“The Darker Side of Hearing Loss” published at Gobblers & Masticadores

Hello, everyone. I’m happy to let you know that a series of essays I’ve written about my experience as a deaf guy in a hearing world is being published at Gobblers & Masticadores, and the sixth and final installment in the series has gone live today. Sincere thanks to Juan Re Crivello for this opportunity to share my experiences with his readers. Today’s essay is “The Darker Side of Hearing Loss” and you can read it by following this link:

“The Darker Side of Hearing Loss”

It’s my hope that sharing my life as a deaf person will raise awareness of this “invisible disability” and the impact it has on those of us with hearing loss, and perhaps enlighten those with normal hearing in order to bridge the gap between us. I hope you enjoy it. Once again, much gratitude to Juan Re Crivello for his kindness and generosity. It’s truly an honor for me.

Don’t forget to follow and subscribe to Gobblers & Masticadores, where you’ll find some wonderful writing and plenty of food for thought.

“Burden of Proof: The Damning Consequences of Skepticism” published at Gobblers & Masticadores

Hi, folks. I’m excited to let you know that a series of essays I’ve written about my experience as a deaf guy in a hearing world is being published at Gobblers & Masticadores, and the fifth installment in the series has gone live today. Sincere thanks to Juan Re Crivello for this opportunity to share my experiences with his readers. Today’s essay is “Burden of Proof: The Damning Consequences of Skepticism” and you can read it by following this link:

“Burden of Proof: The Damning Consequences of Skepticism”

It’s my hope that sharing my life as a deaf person will raise awareness of this “invisible disability” and the impact it has on those of us with hearing loss, and perhaps enlighten those with normal hearing in order to bridge the gap between us. I hope you enjoy it. Once again, much gratitude to Juan Re Crivello for his kindness and generosity. It’s truly an honor for me.

Don’t forget to follow and subscribe to Gobblers & Masticadores, where you’ll find some wonderful writing and plenty of food for thought.

“The Obligatory Deaf Dos and Don’ts Post” published at Gobblers & Masticadores

Hi, everyone. I’m delighted to let you know that a series of essays I’ve written about my experience as a deaf guy in a hearing world is being published at Gobblers & Masticadores, and the fourth installment is now live. Many thanks to Juan Re Crivello for this opportunity to share a little bit of my life with his readers. Today’s essay is “The Obligatory Deaf Dos and Don’ts Post” and you can read it by following this link:

“The Obligatory Deaf Dos and Don’ts Post” at Gobblers & Masticadores

It’s my hope that sharing my experiences as a deaf person will raise awareness of this “invisible disability” and the impact it has on those of us with hearing loss, and perhaps enlighten those with normal hearing in order to bridge the gap between us. I hope you enjoy it.

Once again, sincere thanks to Juan Re Crivello for his kindness and generosity. I truly appreciate this opportunity.

Don’t forget to follow and subscribe to Gobblers & Masticadores, where you’ll find some wonderful writing and plenty of food for thought.

“Coda: Farewell to a Dream” published at Gobblers & Masticadores

Hello, everyone. I’m pleased to let you know that a series of essays I’ve written about my experience as a deaf guy in a hearing world is being published at Gobblers & Masticadores, and the third installment in the series has gone live today. Sincere thanks to Juan Re Crivello for this opportunity to share my experiences with his readers. Today’s essay is “Coda: Farewell to a Dream ” and you can read it by following this link:

“Coda: Farewell to a Dream” at Gobblers & Masticadores

It’s my hope that sharing my life as a deaf person will raise awareness of this “invisible disability” and the impact it has on those of us with hearing loss, and perhaps enlighten those with normal hearing in order to bridge the gap between us. I hope you enjoy it.

Once again, much gratitude to Juan Re Crivello for his kindness and generosity. It’s truly an honor for me.

Don’t forget to follow and subscribe to Gobblers & Masticadores, where you’ll find some wonderful writing and plenty of food for thought.

“Service Dogs, Rabbit Hutches and ASL Humiliation: My Introduction to Deaf Culture” published at Gobblers & Masticadores

Hey, folks. I’m excited to let you know that a series of essays I’ve written about my experience as a deaf guy in a hearing world is being published at Gobblers & Masticadores, and the second in the series has gone live today. Many thanks to Juan Re Crivello for this opportunity to share my experiences with his readers. Today’s essay is “Service Dogs, Rabbit Hutches and ASL Humiliation: My Introduction to Deaf Culture ” and you can read it by following this link:

“Service Dogs, Rabbit Hutches and ASL Humiliation: My Introduction to Deaf Culture” at Gobblers & Masticadores

It’s my hope that sharing my life as a deaf person will raise awareness of this “invisible disability” and the impact it has on those of us with hearing loss, and perhaps enlighten those with normal hearing in order to bridge the gap between us. I hope you enjoy it.

Once again, much gratitude to Juan Re Crivello for his kindness and generosity. It’s truly an honor for me.

Don’t forget to follow and subscribe to Gobblers & Masticadores, where you’ll find some wonderful writing and plenty of food for thought.